Letting Go Toxic Relationships

"Some people are in such utter darkness that they will burn you just to see a light.

Try not to take it personally.”

If you associate with five intellectual people, you will become the sixth. If you associate with five idiots, you will become the sixth. The individuals you hang around with will reflect on you as a person. Being with individuals who care about you is what you want. Spend time with people that will push you to grow and educate you. There will be people who claim to want the best for you but really want the complete opposite. Others may not be as ambitious as you are, and their limitations may minimize your successes when it comes to you and your happiness. These people occasionally could be relatives of your family. Alternately, you can struggle with a childhood trauma that results in a scared cognitive pattern, impeding your own progress. Stinking thinking. You have a major responsibility to take care of yourself, and that involves those that you allow into your personal space. Avoid people who are intimidated by your achievements. You want friends that aren’t afraid to stop you if you're doing something that’s not in your highest good. Friends that will push you, encourage you to embrace change. You have to be mindful of who you share ideas with. People have the "why me?" mindset, and energy is transferable. If this is a recognized trait within your group of friends, you need to walk away from them completely. Jealously can be harmful in more ways than one. When it’s family, we all know how hard that can be. But I firmly believe you should think about this choice if it includes issues with your mental health or your ability to support yourself. Others may need some time to address their problems because they are addicted to so many different unhealthy habits. You may think that being there could be of some assistance, but some people may already have internal harm that cannot be repaired.

You may have that person who only wants what you can do for them. That’s an uneven give and take relationship. The one that’s giving the most will lose in the end. That’s not fair, is it? If you’re giving someone words of encouragement and they're not being received. Stop. If not, you are demeaning yourself by throwing away your words and depleting your energy. So why put yourself in a position to have to deal with those types of issues? Be satisfied with your efforts if you have witnessed a loved one spiraling downward and you have tried everything to help. Just as it is not your obligation to fix others, it is also not the responsibility of others to fix you.

Misery loves company. Don’t be the clown in the circus entertaining them. Depending on the situation, leaving could potentially solve some problems. Sometimes the wisest course of action is to stay in your lane. You may help by leading by example. They say hate is louder, but love lasts longer. Never worry about the naysayers. Focus on your end game. That is success, prosperity, and abundance for you and those around you that desire it. Pray for them. This is a burden I wouldn't advise you to carry. You already have a lot of work to do on yourself. Lessening the load makes things better. Choose you